Before you rush off on your secondment to manage another nursery, I wanted to let you and everyone else know how much my family have valued you, particularly over recent months with the dreaded EHCP process.
The Monster started at the nursery you work at as a two year old. We knew back then that he was different but we were still in the depths of appointments, awaiting a diagnosis but suspecting autism. Choosing a nursery and placing our ultimate trust in a place to look after our child with differing needs to a “normal” child was no mean feat. You were the Deputy Manager and the nursery SENCO, I knew I needed to see something in you that others perhaps don’t consider, I knew you would work closely with The Monster and I would need to interact with you more than most parents need to. YOU were the absolute reason we chose to send The Monster to that nursery. You know every single kids name and they buzz around you when you walk in the room all of them getting your attention. Your passion is evident and the needs of the children and staff alike is of obvious importance to you.
I’d be lying if I said it has always been plain sailing. There have been times in the past where I have had to have difficult conversations with you, it really bares no significance now but I have to say what complete professionalism you and the team have dealt with my grievances and how your reactions have actually had a more positive impact than the grievance in the first instance (that’s quite an accomplishment to impress the queen of complaining 😂).
I want to thank you for bearing with me when I burst into tears when you wanted to move The Monster into his pre-school class before I was ready (it really was the hormones!) It was the best move for him and he has come on leaps and bounds in that class. I want to thank you for all the one to one support you have given The Monster and all of your precious time I have taken up chasing up news of emails from various sources and various funding options.
I want to thank you for all your time in writing his reports which formed part of his EHCP, it is through reading them that I really got to appreciate that you “get” him. Likewise thank you for helping with the report I have written. I know this process has been a learning curve for both of us.
I want to thank you for being present in all the meetings we had at nursery with third parties. Those for me are difficult, it is hard talking about all the things your child can’t do. It is exhausting going over and over how your child has such significant needs that they won’t cope in a mainstream school. I want to thank you for being the diplomat in meetings when I haven’t been able to hide my disappointment and anger when things have been delayed by weeks / months and the right people haven’t even turned up for a meeting.
Thank you for all the behind the scenes work and meetings you have had concerning The Monster and his development and for offering to come back for meetings etc moving forward.
I’m sure I won’t be alone in wanting to thank you for being one of the spearheads in giving our children the opportunity to attend an Ofsted rated Outstanding nursery.
Best of luck in your new role (but dont take too long to come back!) you will nail it. You’ve not just been a Deputy / Acting Manager, You’ve been a friend and have made my life and The Monster’s life easier, which definitely hasn’t gone unnoticed.
Thank you so much,
The Monster’s Mummy
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